I'm sure you've done over and over this question. She is a very attractive, very smart girl, you are transported to imaginary worlds when you're with her and not you settle it just your friend . My ever happened to me and I imagine you too.
She goes crazy and makes us feel things that do not happen with other friends, we get something nervous and tense to talk to her and get our heart pumping blood faster than if we were running a marathon. When you smell his cologne, background vocals tracks suddenly a creepy feeling through your body.
We get nervous and are unsafe at his side because on one hand we would like to confess all what we like but otherwise we fear the reaction if she will not feel the same as us and ruins everything.
In the end, after weighing much the decision, you conclude that you can not load more with those feelings of affection for her and at the end you hear a phrase that we heard stories from other friends and we now are reviving us: " I love you. As a friend. " and unfortunately nothing will ever be the same as was in the beginning.
Story this from my male perspective and the experiences I've had and I've heard this story endless times and certainly will not be the last. To the readers of this blog, I do not know if this has happened to you, but from what I've spoken with many friends, they almost never say "I love you. As a friend.". I say almost never, only because I know a case in which it has been given and it was because the boy in question, had a girlfriend at the time, but if it had not been the case so it all would have been different.
True, it is easier to try to seduce a girl unknown to a lady with whom you are in the area of friendship, but that does not mean that if we really care about our amgia, we have to give up, especially if you are sure you want that person to take a step beyond will allow us to grow as people and not stagnate .
Many people think that to get with a girl the first step is to become your "friend" and they were right. But from my experience, you can be the FRIEND that accompanies the film, which invites you to dinner, who buys expensive gifts or "friend" that he does not hide his intentions, dealing with emotional issues, which will makes me laugh and makes pleasant emotions traveling on his body, which is not available at all times but when they get to be spend unforgettable moments .... among others.
The problem is that you are the FRIEND and would like to try to reverse the situation, stop being his pagafantas and have a different perception of you. And s iempre expect things to invest time without performing any changes .
Your life will change when you change. This does not work sitting down waiting to happen.
What can we do to bring about this change?
From my experience I can tell you that the first thing to do, it sounds a little aggressive and it takes you to do is reduce your availability . Sign up for language classes, takes a trip, stay with friends that have neglected to be with this person, do sports ... In conclusion, we see that she is not the center of your world and especially your so see your addiction because it may decrease and increase hers, because often try to take back what is theirs. This applies to both sexes , it is very human, when we feel important and suddenly we see the attention we received gradually decreases, we try to recover it somehow.
Another tip is that you lose the fear of touching , yes, I hope you know the term to distinguish the touch and being a slimy octopus. Speak seemingly innocent touches like the knee, shoulder, her hair, a caress on the cheek ...
What you're trying to convey is not WHAT you say, but the AS you say, and physical contact makes a certain excitement generated also if this is done as part of a game, as both will be enjoying ourselves while we touch ( Double Portion of emotions). Besides physical contact makes the trust between two people is somewhat larger.
You are friends, you treat it as such and forget that this idea can conquer to play against you, try to make the funny moments and try to talk about your emotions and how you feel doing things. Women are emotional while men are rational, we must get rid of these myths of "alpha males" and "feminizarnos" because I assure you that you will enjoy much more of the conversation also understand you better yourself and the other person .
You also have to learn to be observant and pay attention to the things that people do not usually set or if you notice, he does not know. Do not say I tell you it is very beautiful, because that is what says the vast majority, I mean let her know how well is the hairstyle that he has devoted much time, tell him how much you like that colony with vanilla scent carefully chosen for that day or saberle recognize how good it is makeup that day. Do not be afraid to speak your mind, the generosity is a quality that is being lost and that should not disappear.
You are things allow us to have fewer meetings, but much more intense and fun. With this what we get is that the other person also live these intense and funny moments just being friends.
You see no attempt to stop being your friend, or ask anything, you want to talk about absolutely nothing with it. I simply I offer good times, fun and conversation filled with joy and sensuality, not forgetting the "innocent" physical contact .
This is what I believe and changing beliefs that I had to perform to achieve a more person be empathetic and better connection with people still lead a full and interesting life.